tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2427270236076019894.post2723330886534717627..comments2023-10-10T04:29:00.070-04:00Comments on Lady Talks a Lot: Dealing with unsolicited parenting adviceAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05292929584913914537noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2427270236076019894.post-16438573621416302402010-07-18T15:29:57.598-04:002010-07-18T15:29:57.598-04:00Dear anonymous - I wish I had your name so I could...Dear anonymous - I wish I had your name so I could write you. It does not sound like our friend was trying to hurt you, more like she was trying to help your son. My son does have developmental delays. Mainly in speech, however he did show the same signs your friend said your son shows. He had problems with correctly holding a pen, scissors and crayons. My son has some very minor delays, and a severe speech issue. We started getting him help at 2 1/2 but only because we had someone "trained" point out that he was not progressing. We have some great free programs in Canada that focus on helping the development of children under 6. We would not have realized our son had a problem if we had not been participating at one of the free play centers. The sooner a child with delays receives help the better it is. Delays are not permanent unless not dealt with. You may wish to have your son looked at, just for your own knowledge. It does not mean there is anything "wrong" with your son. There may be nothing delayed about your son, all kids develop differently. He may just need to work on his hand muscles. However if there is it is better to find out now, instead of latter. Many delays are not caught early on because parents are not the best judge all the time. The person giving you advice was not some stranger, but someone who cares about your son and has had time to observe him. There may be nothing to it, on the on the other hand there may be. Best to go that little extra and find out.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05292929584913914537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2427270236076019894.post-28029233650382799222010-07-18T00:07:12.850-04:002010-07-18T00:07:12.850-04:00A friend of mine who often will keep my kids for m...A friend of mine who often will keep my kids for me and I do the same for her, pulled me aside the other day and asked if I have gotten my son (he is 4) tested for developmental delays. I said no I have not seen any reason for that. She then went on to give me many reasons. He doesn't hold his crayon, pen, scissors correctly. She can't understand a word he says when he speaks... blah. blah. blah. I just stared at her. Unbelieveable, she kept going... saying that it would be better to go ahead and get him help (he shows no signs of needing help) before he starts school. I finally had enough. I just left. Walked out the door and didn't say a word. She did call me, I didn't answer. I still haven't spoken to her and don't know what to say when I do... very upsetting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2427270236076019894.post-79142626912843227282010-07-10T12:52:53.936-04:002010-07-10T12:52:53.936-04:00It continues on and people are very happy to give ...It continues on and people are very happy to give plenty of advice whether or not they have any idea what they're talking about. I have teenagers who are all very good kids, and still people have plenty of opinions.Just stick to your guns. I did and my kids are all doing great!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com