Many people find themselves with unplanned pregnancies.
Often people think of unplanned pregnancies as something for the young, not
those of us who are not so young anymore. Well that is changing as more of us
older folks are having children later on in life.
Now when I say unplanned, I don’t mean it is an unfortunate
turn of events. Rather another baby was not something we were trying for. To be
honest we had decided that two children was enough 6 years ago. Things happen,
and now we are having our third child, it is not a bad thing, just an expected but
happy turn of events.
However there are some real pros and cons with being
pregnant at 43.
The cons are:
It is considered a high risk pregnancy. Fortunately more and
more older woman are successfully having healthy pregnancies and babies in
their 40’s and even 50’s. This means that I have to be smart about what I do
and eat. I have to take care of myself and the baby. Well I did that with the
first two. Only real difference is that I am being monitored more frequently
and will be going to an Obstetrician sooner than later.
Our other children are older 7 and 9. For some parents that it
is a good thing, you have babysitters when they turn 12. For others the gap can
cause problems within the family dynamics. I am looking at it in the positive; I am not
going to have three kids all in diapers. Instead I have two children who can
help out and at least for the most part do a lot of things for themselves, like
get a drink or something to snack on.
I was through with diapers. Guess not, lol.
We got rid of all our baby stuff. Now we have to start all over,
from scratch. At least with my second child we saved a lot of money because we
still had most of our baby stuff from our first child. Also we had friends who
had children just before us and after us. We all passed baby stuff to each
other. I don’t think we are going to
have that this time around, though I could be wrong.
We live in a three bedroom! The baby will be in one of the other
kids rooms. Not sure how that is going to go over. Lots of changes, and
adjustments.
Who has money for a baby?
We have to come up with a good baby name – do you have any
idea how hard that can be?
Pros:
We know what to expect, and what we are going to be going
through: the lack of sleep, the crying, the diapers and everything else that
comes with a baby.
We have some skill dealing with children, and are not bad
parents. Yes we made mistakes with our first two, but we will be making completely
different mistakes with this one.
Our children are older, so they can help out.
What is available for baby’s now is way cooler then what was
available 10 years ago.
Most important pro: We are having a BABY – way cool.
