Ok, I understand that she is busy and does not have the time to set up the new computer. She is waiting until the home they are building is finished before they set it up. Mind you they have been building the new home for over 10 years, it might even be more then 15 years. I have no idea how much more work needs to be done, or how long it will take.
I am frustrated because I was trying to explain to her that if she has a new computer she should be using it. Also you don’t buy a computer until you are ready to use it because you can get the same one for a lot less later on, or buy a better one for the same price. She is happy to have it in its box, ready for when she wants to set it up. I keep thinking about how much she spent (did not ask) and that she could have gotten a much better deal when she was ready to actually use a new computer, not store one.
I think the problem is that she is just not that into computers the way my family is. It is not a big deal to her if the computer sits there in a box for a year. She had the money so she bought it and put it aside until she is ready to use it. Computers are not a big part of her life, she just does not use computers the way my family and I use them. My kids started trying to play on the computer around 2 ½ years old. Heck, my kids have their own computers. My mom actually bought our son a laptop when he was 8. My kids use computers every day, and so do I. It is hard for me to wrap my head around having a new computer and not using it, not even opening it to make sure it works.
The real frustrating part is that I have been after her for years to do video conferencing with us so my kids can talk to her face to face, but the computer she is using is old, and is not equipped to do video conferencing (Skype). Then I find out she has a new computer sitting in a box. I just keep thinking about the time she is losing that she could have been talking face to face with her grandchildren on Skype. I have no idea how close they are to finishing the house. I don’t even know if their new computer has what they need to do Skype. But as I finally emailed my Mom, it’s her computer so I will shut up.
I was still frustrated so I decided to write (whine) about it to get it out of my system. It helped me see that my getting frustrated about the new computer still in a box is my issue, not hers. When she is ready she will open the computer box; that is her choice. I should just mind my own business.
I am still frustrated though. I want my kids to be able to see their Grandmother and for her to see them even if it is just on Skype. I am sure she will get around to opening up her new computer, when she is ready. I just hope she can Skype with it; that she has what she needs to do video conferencing. Mind you if it was not for my husband I would have no idea how to Skype or what I would need on my computer to do so! Thank goodness my laptop came with everything I need!
Ok, I have to laugh at myself for getting upset about my Mom not setting up her computer when I have never set one up myself. That is what my husband does, builds and fixes our computers (not laptops). I am sure if I had to I could set one up, they have extremely easy step by step instructions or come fully loaded these days. Build one, nope, but turn it on and follow what it tells me to do, that I have no problem doing. Now I am laughing at myself!